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Post by jaz on May 5, 2004 10:42:15 GMT -5
I created this thread as I would like to have a thread about kids... Some of us DO have kids and need to either ask or relate information...is this possible? Does anyone object? It could be an informative or kind of a rant and rave section about kids...Let me know...
Jaz
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Post by TJ on May 5, 2004 13:48:13 GMT -5
Seeing As Not All Members
Are Parents
We Can Make This Thread
Into Everything About Children 
For Instance,
Kids Past/Present In Parenting,
Do's & Dont's,
Genetic Similarities,
Adopting, Foster, Invitro,
Natural Birth, C-Section,
ANYTHING & EVERYTHING
To Do With Topics On
Babies/Children
Start Posting  !
Great Thread Jaz !
I Don't Want Anything Too Personal
Posted In This Thread As
The Oddball Section
IS OPEN TO PUBLIC VIEWING !
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Post by jaz on May 6, 2004 10:48:25 GMT -5
Here's a little hint on parenting... Gotta take my own advice LOL on this one... Screaming....Have you ever had your child in tears say to you : [glow=red,2,300]Please don't yell at me mommy or daddy?[/glow] If you have, then you scream too much, and nothing is getting in your kids' head other than making your child become a nervous wreck. They will end up holding their feelings inside, will be sared of everyone, scpecially adults, and definetely won't know the difference between respect and discipline. Out of sheer frustration, or lack of parenting skills, we find ourselves sometimes yelling at our kids, it's not good - and I, for one, know that. When our child does something WE consider bad, we can sometimes "lose" it and start to yell - do you know what goes through the child's mind? What am I getting yelled at for? They lose concept of what they did wrong once you start to yell because like most adults, they shut YOU out. Therefore the teaching has been lost... Since kids don't come with a handbook, we all learn at the same time, they learn to become little adults and we learn what it's like to be a child... Love my babies.  |
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Post by jaz on May 6, 2004 11:10:20 GMT -5
Here's something I think all parents should know:
"Discipline"
To many, it's not a pretty word - it can evoke many feelings, some good some bad, such as fear, happiness, or even humiliation - because that's what most of our parents used to do. Ex: slapping excessively, take the belt to us...etc. 
Discipline is actually none of that - it comes from the Latin word meaning to "teach", and there are five main components of discipline:
As a parent, you want to :
1- Instill an understanding of the concept of right and wrong;
2- Plant the seeds of self-control;
3- Teach respect for the rights and feelings of others;
4- Increase the chances of your child growing happy and balanced to go out into the world;
and finally,
5- To protect your child, your home and your sanity!
There are different types of disciplines, choose the one that suits you but be careful - one extreme to the other can create an unbalanced child! You don't want to be too permissive or too authoritive - a balance of both is good.
anyways, nuff said for now! ;D
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Post by CorkMan on May 7, 2004 2:11:12 GMT -5
I think with lots of kids today when they have hard parents they don't have alot of free will, So then the question comes down to how to you have good kids that have a good free will?  But I shall remember your lessions Jaz as one day I just might need them |
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Post by jaz on May 7, 2004 10:30:28 GMT -5
I think with lots of kids today when they have hard parents they don't have alot of free will, So then the question comes down to how to you have good kids that have a good free will? But I shall remember your lessions Jaz as one day I just might need them All children are born with free will - it can be good or bad, the concept of free will is very closely connected to the concept of moral responsibilityand to act with free will is to exercise a certain type of control over one's behavior; what you do, when you act freely, is up to you, and it also comes down to nature vs nurture... Free will of children is a big subject Corkman...you sure you wanna go there?  Personnally, most children are born with "good" free will, it's what they are taught by adults, society, friends, etc... that makes it "bad".... Children are good until they learn... nuff said for now.... |
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Post by CorkMan on May 8, 2004 6:02:14 GMT -5
I think the parents have to enforce a 'good' free will upon them but then when the 'bad' free will comes along well then you get all these pyscho people like the people we were talking about in the 'wanna vent section' and  I think responsiblity is the main thing that has to be taught. ;D |
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Post by jaz on May 17, 2004 10:32:19 GMT -5
I think the parents have to enforce a 'good' free will upon them but then when the 'bad' free will comes along well then you get all these pyscho people like the people we were talking about in the 'wanna vent section' and I think responsiblity is the main thing that has to be taught. ;D You are right to some degree about parents having to teach "good free will", however, watch a baby and you will see for yourself that they are not born bad - I have had the opportunity to watch babies and they don't have a mean bone in their bodies - it will be what they are taught by their sibling, other kids and most of all by his parents that will bring out the "bad" free will. Parents' job is to curb inhibitions or the "me, myself and I" ideal. |
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Post by CorkMan on May 23, 2004 4:46:43 GMT -5
You are right to some degree about parents having to teach "good free will", however, watch a baby and you will see for yourself that they are not born bad - I have had the opportunity to watch babies and they don't have a mean bone in their bodies - it will be what they are taught by their sibling, other kids and most of all by his parents that will bring out the "bad" free will. Parents' job is to curb inhibitions or the "me, myself and I" ideal. Yeah I suppose that is true like how when a baby is born it isn't affraid of anything like heights, spiders or whatever but they have bad experiances which makes them scared |
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Post by jaz on Jul 28, 2004 11:03:23 GMT -5
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Post by jaz on Aug 9, 2004 18:11:52 GMT -5
Alright, I must say my piece...if you live in a TWO household parents, BOTH parents must agree on the type of discipline they want to instill. If neither parent see eye to eye on discipline - get a parenting class in 'cause if you don't - your kids will play parent against parent >:(and that my friends is no picnic! |
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Post by DEX - \m/ on Sept 24, 2004 5:31:47 GMT -5
my son Liam gets it from me as I am as mad as a march hair............and I never want to grow up so there na na nanana  |
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Post by Tomb Raider on Sept 27, 2004 12:44:20 GMT -5
i love kids.....couldn't eat a whole one though ;D
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Post by Mutteruk on Sept 28, 2004 5:10:21 GMT -5
i think if childeren are bought up to appriciate the good and bad things in life and not have it served on a silver platter, you know, have to work to acieve their goals, that they will become better people, well thats my opion
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